Work and social life in Turkey

Turks tend to do things in groups, not individually or in pairs, believing the more the merrier. Turks will be friendly and take you in as “part of the family,” particularly if you are staying alone in a hotel room or rented business apartment. If you like time alone or privacy you may not get much here! Turks tend to not understand if you want to be independent or do something alone: they will be afraid that you will get lonely and so will make a serious effort to look after you, to take you to places and to ensure that you are not left in on your own.

Friendship implies a deep commitment to and concern for the other person. A friendship in Turkey is different from a casual acquaintance. If someone is your friend, you expect to see them often and to be intimately concerned about what is happening in their life. It is important to contact friends regularly. A phone call to ask how they are, in particular if they have been ill, is appreciated. Foreigners are generally seen as “cold” if they do not do this. Privacy is not generally understood; a Turk would expect you to ask all of the details concerning their recent doctor’s visit and would assume you do not care if you don’t ask what, to you, may seem to be intrusive questions. They are verbally expressive and use flowery language so it is important to use phrases such as “missed you a lot.”

Turks are extremely proud of their nation, its past and Ataturk’s reforms. They will want to take you to see the historical sites and also to modern facilities to show that Turkey has all the amenities available in Europe. The visitor needs to be careful in making comparisons because Turks are sensitive to criticism. It is important to try to understand the local worldview which puts much emphasis on core values such as shame, honor, loyalty and unity. Doing this will enable you to recognize the patterns of deeper meaning that lie behind outward behavior.

Turkish people often feel personally responsible for the success of a visitor’s stay. They do not want you to be disappointed. They will often plan a series of outings for you, so be ready for this! If they feel that you are not enjoying yourself they may double their efforts to ensure that their visitor has a good experience. Sometimes replies that they give to your questions may not be totally truthful and this is because they do not want to disappoint you.

Another difference in culture may be greetings. Introductions and greetings are very important. There are set patterns. Generally people will greet each other with a kiss on both cheeks, man to man or woman to woman. This is common in a business setting too, if there is a long-standing relationship between the two parties. An appropriate greeting for man to woman is either a nod or a “wet fish” handshake with as little contact as possible if you do not know each other well. Sometimes as a sign of respect for the elderly a younger person may kiss the hand and press it to his or her forehead.

Greetings are important and taking time to do this right demonstrates respect for the other person. When entering a home or a meeting room, or joining a restaurant table full of other people, it is important to go round and greet everyone, not just your best friend(s) in the room. As you enter the room you should greet and sometimes shake the hand of each person. If an elderly person or more senior business associate enters after you, it is polite to stand up for the person.

The greeting is also important. Certain key phrases need to be learned. Here are a few tips if you are new to Turkey: As you enter individuals will say “Hos Geldiniz!” (Welcome!) and you should reply “Hos bulduk!” (Glad to be here!). The religious will greet with “Selamun aleykum” (May God’s peace be with you); the reply to this is “Aleykum selam” (And also with you). Another useful phrase is “Nasılsınız?” (How are you?), to which you should reply, “Iyiyim. Siz nasılsınız?” (I am fine. How are you?). When you are introduced to someone for the first time you should say “Memnun oldum” (Pleased to meet you).

SOURCE: TODAY’S ZAMAN

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